The word "Paradox" always seemed to fascinate me in unexplained ways. It began with the way it sounded which attracted me to know its defined meaning. There are these certain words which probably we don't know the exact meaning but keep using them again and again just because they sound good. "Paradox" for me is one such word , though i hardly used it only because i wasn't sure what it really meant.Well the definition and the published meaning appears to be nothing confusing , maybe i wasn't relating to the examples or simply wasn't sure to which the situations in my life or maybe the folks around where a "paradox" seemed to be happening.
But then as they say the experience is the best teacher , provided you are ready to learn from it and grow each day rather than just exist in it. So what have I learnt to make a Paradox make sense to me? The decision to join the Air Force apart from the burning desire to Fly and a certain percentage to serve the Nation was also to get a sense of certainty in my life . With Certainty i mean stability of job, security of wealth ,career etc etc which makes the existence in this world Comfortable in a stereotypical way . And then achieving that goal and establishing a life with absolute stability for more than a decade, a strange sense of boredom of being a part of a rut and race has certainly crept up . Exploring the unknown and fulfilling my other desires, hobbies and other dreams have certainly taken a backseat . Though the CERTAINTY has brought stability in my life it has also has slowly and steadily has brought a kind of stagnation in my growth as a person and i definitely have stopped dreaming , because to fulfill them i now need to step out of my STABLE world and accept UNCERTAINTY to venture out . I now need to break away , travel, write, read , run and play out by stepping into the world of UNCERTAINTY. I need to to surprise myself and stop living in a routine, and see the world with a different set of eyes everyday. BUT what gives me the freedom to think this way ? What tells me to take the basic necessities of life and the world for granted now? What makes me think that i need to Break away? Well , its nothing but my world of CERTAINTY filled with stability and security giving me the privilege today of Stepping out into the world of UNCERTAINTY where definitely id be surprised on the things i can accomplish but would have the sense of instability and insecurity attached to it . It will make grow as a person im urging to become and will show me horizons unknown to me , but i will have to step out of the world which is giving me all the very freedom to think so and the stability in the family and life responsible for encouraging me to live my dreams. And this what is the "Paradox" I m living with and will continue to live trying to strike a Balance and continue to live the STABLE life (trait of a CERTAIN life) but trying to GROW (Trait of the UNCERTAIN life) each day surprising my past self everyday.
The second Paradox most of us are living is that we want to live in a group or be a part of a group but still have our Individuality paramount . The best example being the over addition of showcasing our individual and personal life on the social media platform and eagerly waiting for the rest of the world to appreciate it by "liking" or commenting/ praising about it . All our attention is not to live our life but project it waiting for the pseudo sense of being appreciated in the virtual space. It leads to a situation where the same people start distancing themselves from your fab life cause they do not see themselves a s a part of it and in cases feel no reciprocation from the individual. The individual is now slowly stranded alone in the virtual space and now wants to be a part of a group to feel wanted or appreciated. Now being a part of a group still the he/she wants to keep the individuality intact and get into the same Paradoxical cycle.
